Mom Blogging Matters

When I was pregnant with the boy, despite all my reading, I knew that I was going to need more.  I knew that book learning wouldn't be enough and that I needed to expand my circle of friends and family to include other new moms.  I knew that I couldn't go at it alone and that I was going to need all the love, support and advice that I could get.  Little did I know however, that without even taking off my pyjamas there was an entire world of momma's baring their souls and sharing their lives, their experiences and their families through their blogs.

I am proud to say that I am a blogging momma’s and although I love that I now have readers, the truth is, I blog for myself.  I blog as a creative outlet, to ensure that I never lose my metaphorical voice, to remind myself of the little moments that whiz by in the blink of an eye and to document the things that make motherhood amazing, manageable and sometimes nerve wracking.  I hope those intentions are reflected in the posts I write and the products I review, because when I read blogs, it’s the honesty and purity of the writer that touches me and makes me want to come back for more. 

It's the personal connection that Canadian Mom Bloggers offer to their readers, often raw with reality, that reaches out and touches our hearts.  It's the advice we glean from their experiences, the tears we cry for their pain and the reassurance that we are not alone in the struggles and challenges we face each and every day, that positively affect Canadian women across the country.

Many women aren't lucky enough to live in an urban setting where there are mommas on every corner and opportunities to make face to face momma connections every day.  Thanks to Canadian Mom Bloggers, wisdom, support and friends are only a mouse click away and with that connection comes a sense of community, belonging and camaraderie that every momma needs to maintain a happy healthy lifestyle.

Mom blogging is about the collective us; the millions of women who are coming together to provide common ground, mutual respect and support to improve not only the quality of our own lives and health, but of all the women who come together via blogging to read, tweet and interact on a regular basis.  Mom blogs intrinsically have a positive effect on the health of Canadians via the establishment of a much needed, adhoc support system that could otherwise never exist.



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Who doesn't love a good wedding?

A dear friend of mine got married last weekend and I was honoured to be a member of her wedding party.  Unfortunately, that meant that I didn't get the chance to snap a bunch of pictures during the wedding as I was standing up there beside her.  Even worse, my camera battery died shortly after the ceremony, so I couldn't piggy back on the photographers pictures either!

That of course isn't to say I didn't get ANY pictures, I do have a few that I love, but I'm very cautious about how much I'm willing to share on the blog.  For now, I hope you enjoy this picture of her lovely wedding dress; my friend looked SO Greek Goddess on her special day!

And this delicious looking wedding cake was full-on gluten-free, dairy-free deliciousness and I happen to know it didn't cost an arm and a leg.  It is possible my friends to have allergen-friendly treats without totally blowing the bank.  The cake was made by High Crow Gluten Free Foods, whom I had met at a local farmers market.

During the post wedding festivities, I was lucky enough to get a great picture of my lovely new haircut.  If you follow me on twitter than you likely already know that I chopped all my hair off about a month ago, and I'm loving it.  The truth is, I've had my hair short, more or less, since I was in grade 8 and I just feel more comfortable without a ton of hair.


Unfortunately, every couple years I seem to forget how much I prefer my hair short, but I'm lucky enough to have Courtney around to remind me.  Seriously, short just looks better, remember this picture from about early January?  Courtney's available to help you with your hair woes and questions too, send her your questions at mommastuffblog@gmail.com.

The BEST gluten-free Pizza also happens to be Dairy-Free and Soy-Free

I've met a lot of people with dietary restrictions and without doubt, one of the first foods that everyone craves is pizza.  There's just something about that ooey, gooey goodness, that is oh so bad for anyone with a gluten or dairy intolerance, that's so hard to resist.  In fact, just based on casual conversation, I would go so far as to say it is one of the most common foods that people with restricted diets eat, despite the consequences they'll have to endure.

For a long time, this was my go-to gluten-free pizza recipe.  It's quick, easy and pretty darn delicious.  Plus, since its made with bean flour, I'd almost go so far as to call it nutritious.  I'd still make it in a pinch or if I wanted pizza quick, but its no longer my favourite.

After three and a half gluten-free years, I have quite possibly found the best gluten-free pizza recipe.  One of the amazing features of this recipe is that you can keep the dough in your fridge for a week, so with minimal effort, its possible to have gluten-free pizza two times in a single week.  This recipe is adapted from the fantastic book Healthy Bread in Five Minutes a Day by Jeff Hertzberg & Zoe Francois, take a moment and check out their website for more recipes and cooking deliciousness.

To make the boy's pizza dairy-free, I use Daiya Vegan Cheese, however before I found that, I used to make a small amount of white sauce (using Earth Balance soy free margarine, rice flour and rice milk) and I would drizzle it on top of the pizza before baking, to give it some 'bubbliness' and help hold the toppings on the pizza.  Daiya's better, but the white sauce drizzle is a reasonable solution if you can't find any vegan cheese to meet your dietary restrictions.

Gluten-Free, Dairy-Free, Soy-Free Pizza Dough

(Adapted from Healthy Bread in Five Minutes a Day
by Jeff Hertzberg & Zoe Francois)

Dry Ingredients:

• 1/2 cup brown rice flour
• 1/4 cup sorghum flour
• 1/2 cup tapioca starch
• 1 3/4 cup cornstarch
• 1 Tbsp yeast (fast-acting or traditional is fine)
• 1/2 Tbsp sea salt
• 1 Tbsp xantham gum

Wet Ingredients:

• 3/4 - 1 cup warm water
• 2 large eggs
• 1/3 cup olive oil
• 1 tsp cider vinegar

 Directions to make the Dough:

1. Whisk together all of the dry ingredients in the bowl of your stand mixer. 
   Using a whisk will blend the flours well and add a little extra air.
2. Combine all of the wet ingredients.
   I like to use a 'shaker cup' intended for protein shakes or marinades.
3. Gradually add the wet ingredients to the dry using the paddle attachment on your stand mixer.
   This step can apparently be done by hand, but it would definitley take some elbow grease.  The dough should be soft and slightly sticky, but not goopy.
4. Loosely cover the dough and allow to rest at room temperature for approximately 2 hours.
   I often turn my oven to warm for 5 minutes while preparing the dough, then place the bowl in the 'warmed' oven to rise as my home is quite cool.
5. The dough can now be used fresh to make your pizza or you can refrigerate it in a lidded (not airtight) container for up to 7 days.

 Directions to Make the Pizza:

1. Preheat your oven to 425F
   If you are using a pizza stone, let it preheat in the hot oven for at least 30 minutes.
2. Remove a ball of dough roughly the size of a grapefruit (orange if making a toddler pizza) and place on a piece of parchment paper and cover with two pieces of saran wrap so that when you roll out the dough, the entire area will be covered by saran.
   You can use a Silpat mat, but parchment works better especially if you want a crispy crust and are going to follow (optional) step 8.
3. Roll the dough out until it is about 1/4 of an inch thick and will fit on your pan.
4. Slowly and carefully remove the saran wrap from the dough.
5. Place your pizza sauce, toppings and Daiya Vegan Cheese on the dough.
   Make sure you read your topping ingredients to make sure they meet your dietary restrictions.  If using vegetables, I recommend pre-sauteeing them to prevent your crust from becoming soggy.
6. Slide your pizza, and parchment paper, onto your pizza stone or place on a cookie sheet and slide it into the oven.
7. Bake for 10 minutes.
8. OPTIONAL: Carefully slide your pizza off of the parchment and onto the pizza stone or cookie sheet.
   This will prevent a soggy crust!
9. Bake another 3-5 minutes until your toppings are bubbly and golden and your crust is crispy and slightly browned.
10. Allow to cool slightly before cutting.
11. Stuff your face and enjoy your pizza without any guilt.
    

Yield: two full size pizza's and one toddler (or personal) size pizza
Recipe can be doubled

whirl wind

When I was a little girl, I remember time passing so slowly.  Each day was so full and the time between birthdays and holidays seemed almost insurmountable.  Now, life feels more like a whirl wind and I have to be cautious not to let it pass me by without stopping to savour the moments. I'm learning that keeping my camera at the ready at all times is both enjoyable in the moment and in embracing the memories.

I took this photo about 3 weeks ago in an attempt to document both my growing belly and my new haircut, but was disappointed with all of the shots I took, but after a little fun using Pretty Presets freebies, this enjoyable little gem emerged.


And look at this independent little man; seriously are little boys ingrained to find walking sticks? The boy carried that stick around for almost our entire walk and he doesn't even know anyone that walks with a cane!

I love capturing innocent father-son moments like this one, there's something so beautiful about catching my boys in the crisp, cool air absorbed by each other and the family of ducks swimming below them.

And of course, I love when the hubs manages to catch a photo of me and our exhausted little boy. It just makes my heart melt.

Unspoken Grief

Although I am one of the 'lucky ones' *knock on wood*, and have not experienced the misfortune of a miscarriage, I have been touched by the experiences of others.  I know women who have had to endure the pain of losing their unborn child, including family members, coworkers and fellow bloggers.  Each woman's pain is unique, raw and real.

When I was pregnant with the boy I spent a lot of time on the 'What To Expect' (WTE) Message boards and soon after our March 2009 children were born, our WTE sisterhood began a boycott from the site because moderators were deleting posts containing pictures or discussions regarding, 'angel babies'.  It was sad to realize that a place that had been so welcoming to all of us, was suddenly the home to such hostility.

From what I understand, the call for silence regarding miscarriage, loss and angel babies, is suprisingly common.  That there are many women suffering alone, without support and without community is disappointing to say the least, which is why I am so proud to share with you a new project being launched TODAY, called Unspoken Grief.

The Mission: to create a safe space for individuals & families touched directly or indirectly by miscarriage, stillbirth & neonatal loss to share their stories, feelings and thoughts about grief, loss, hope or society. Our society has a lack of understanding and a level of discomfort with the grieving process surrounding the loss of a pregnancy and it is our hope that we bring these topics out into the open and create a community where families are supported, understood and honor our children who left too soon.

The site is designed as a group blog so that everyone can contribute and share their story, they support and their experiences.  If you have suffered from a loss, you no longer have to do it alone.  Many kudos to Devan from Accustomed Chaos,for embracing her grief to create something that is clearly needed in our society.

I am Not Alone

This week, Theta Mom wrote a great post entitled, You are Not Alone and I found myself nodding along with each and every point made, even though only one section refers to my reality.  The post was a gentle reminder about the struggles of motherhood that we all go through, every day, in some way or another.  It reminded me that each moment of frustration, no matter how small is valid and that its unlikely I am the first, or the last to experience the flood of emotion that ensues.

Unfortunately, despite all of this, I had a bit of a meltdown this weekend.  I'm the mediator in my family, so I generally pride myself on keeping things in control.  But, after the peanut incident last week the boy has been clingy and cranky to say the least and its been taking its toll on me.  He's not been eating much, he's been crying much more than usual and he's having trouble going and staying asleep, which of course means this pregnant Momma's not sleeping all that well either.

Saturday morning the boy had swimming lessons, so we had our breakfast, got geared up and went to the pool for our 8:30am lesson.  The boy walked up to his waist in the water, walked out and asked to go home, this was of course around the time that the class (and the screaming) started.  After 10 minutes of wailing, we left.  As I drove, the tears started streaming down my face and there was nothing I could do to stop them.

I was frustrated, upset and mad at the boy.  Of course this quickly translated into being both mad at myself and overcome with guilt that I would put all of my hormonal emotions onto my 22 month old son.

After a few hours away and a little quality time with my Momma, I remembered.

I am Not Alone.
It's ok to be frustrated.
It's ok to cry.
It's ok to ask for help.
It's ok to need time for myself.
It's ok to be mad.
...and most importantly, I am Not Alone.

To all the Momma's out there that are struggling today, You are Not Alone, either.

Going peanut free

Last Thursday, I returned from my lunch break to find my phone message light flashing and a text from the hubs stating 'Call me ASAP'.  I'm pretty positive in the 9.5 years we have been together, I have never heard him use the term ASAP.  I knew something was wrong and was instantly filled with worry.

I caught the hubs before he ran out the door to the hospital, but he gave me the lowdown.  The boy had found a peanut butter sandwich crust at my sister-in-laws and after simply touching it, he had an almost immediate reaction.  The skin on his hands became red and inflammed and the reaction kept spreading.  By the time my mother-in-law got him upstairs the redness spread past his wrist, by the time my sister-in-law grabbed a pen to mark the redness, it had reached his armpits.  They loaded him up on Benadryl and took him to the hospital (which is conveniently one block away).

Fortunately, there was no respiratory distress, which led the doctor to agree with my mother-in-laws observations that he hadn't actually ingested any peanut butter, however his reaction is considered anaphylactic.  It was only about 15 minutes from when he touched the peanut butter to when he was in the ER and by that time he was red up to the eyeballs.  The doctor gave him an epipen shot and some benadryl, which seemed to settle the inflamation, but within an hour an a half it was coming back.  They had to give him another epipen shot as well as a steroid to try and get the medication to 'stick'.  He threw up at this point, and cried from the shots, but after the second round of shots, he moved into recovery mode.

I was ready to bolt from the office when the hubs told me what happened, but he quickly encouraged me to stay rational and finish anything critical I was working on since I'd been out of office for the past two days and he was already one foot out the door.  It was hard to do, but it was a good decision.  The boy was well taken care of by his Daddy and his Aunty and I didn't have to stress about work when I took the next day off with the boy.

I didn't actually get to the hospital until after the second round of medication, but I did end up staying for about 4 hours until we saw the pediatrician and she discharged us.  For the next two days, the boy was cranky, itchy and red, but I gave him benadryl without hesitation to keep him comfortable.  Over the past week, his skin has been very sensitive and there seems to be a lot more redness and itching than normal.  We're going to the pediatrician for a follow-up tomorrow and she mentioned at the hospital that she will be referring us to an allergist.

I'm sad for the boy, that not only does he have another allergy, he has a severe, life-threatening allergy.  Eczema triggering allergies are manageable and if his allergies don't go away as he gets older, he will at least be in a position to weigh the enjoyment of eating 'forbidden' foods against the reaction.  With the peanuts however, its an entirely different situation.  Even though we are now armed with epipens and I know that nut allergies are increasingly common and manageable (my nephew and sister are both anaphylactic to hazelnuts), I still find myself thinking of all the food the boy will never get to experience and the difficulties this allergy will cause him as he ages.

I know so many of you are living with severe allergies yourself or in your family, and I know we live in a day and age where there are so many options available, but any words of wisdom on the topic would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks in advance for sharing.